Hi Ellen,
Thank you for your message.
Have you tried looking at church records for more info? Most Catholic records are held locally so you may need to write to the local parish priest for possible assistance. One website that you may find useful is the Irish Times where they give an overview of what records are available in specific parishes. It also shows you where copies of the records are available. For Millstreet parish, follow this link:
http://www.irishtimes.com/ancestor/fuses/rcparishmaps/index.cfm?fuseaction=showidrecords&CityCounty=Cork%20North-West&parish=Millstreet&churchid=80
If John died after 1864 there will be a civil record of his death. Civil records are available from the General Register?s Office. Here are their contact details:
General Register Office
Government Offices
Convent Road
Roscommon
Ireland
Tel:+353 90 663 2900
Locall:1890 25 20 76
Fax:+353 90 663 2999
Homepage: http://www.groireland.ie/
You can search the indexes to these records up to 1958 online at:
https://familysearch.org/search/collection/1408347
The Old Millstreet Graveyard is available at look at on http://historicgraves.com/graveyard/old-millstreet/co-odms
There are 10 John Murphy?s recorded in Griffith?s Valuation for Cullen parish:
http://www.askaboutireland.ie/griffith-valuation/index.xml?action=doNameSearch&Submit.x=52&Submit.y=13&Submit=Submit&familyname=murphy&firstname=john&baronyname=&countyname=CORK&unionname=&parishname=CULLEN
Some other websites that you may find useful are:
The National Archives of Ireland http://www.nationalarchives.ie/genealogy1/genealogy-records/introduction/
The National Library of Ireland http://www.nli.ie/en/family-history-introduction.aspx
The National Archives UK ? genealogy search: http://www.nationalarchives.gov.uk/records/looking-for-person/
The Public Records Office of Northern Ireland http://www.proni.gov.uk/index/family_history.htm
Genealogy Links: http://www.genealogylinks.net/uk/ireland/cork/index.html
Failte Romhat: www.failteromhat.com
From Ireland: www.from-ireland.net
Kind regards,
Genealogy Support