Thank you for your help. My head always spins when all the names are repeated generation after generation. Here is what I do know from the obit of my John McNelis of Donegal: (Three living siblings were named.)
John was born 1834 immigrated to US abt 1854 married a Mary Bridgit McNamara in 1858 in Xenia, Ohio and died thre in 1909. His brother Patrick McNelis born 1842 immigrated abt 1860 married Bridgit Gillespie in 1864 in Xenia Ohio and died there in 1907. Another brother Daniel born 1850, immigrated 1870 married Catherine Farrell in 1884 Minnesota and died there 1940. A sister was alive in 1909 and was named Mrs Michael Carr who was living in Schuylkill, PA when her brother died. So I am thinking we have a differant Mrs. Michel Carr /McNelis? But I DID find a birth of a John Carr on 30 April 1876 in Meenaneary, parents Michael Carr and Margaret McNelis. I DID find a John Carr with same birth year living in Philadelphia PA in 1910. No luck of finding Margaret in an obit, etc.
Also in the obit it stated that a brother Andrew McNelis was living in Ireland, in 1909. The name of Andrew is not all that common so one Andrew McNelis I found was Roman Catholic Rev McNelis, Parish Priest of Kilcar who died Feb 27, 1906. There was also an Andrew Mc Nelis in the 1834 tax assesments who lived in Kilrean, Killybegs. I was told Glencolumbkill was where thay came from since my moms cousin went there and visited with relatives back in the late 1900. But little good with no written records. Any ideas where to go next? Is there a great library with local records in Donegal that I could go to? Or the local parish priest? Will be in Donegal next week!! Thank you for al your help